Viewed a nice little thread today in one of the size positive groups that I’m in about a woman named Kristy Love, a woman from Atlanta who uses her 48NN boobs — but not the way you think. Love is a “busty masseuse” who smothers and massages clients with her large breasts.
Here’s a link to the story if you’d like to read more about Ms. Love.
I’ve not had the opportunity to see Ms. Love in action, but a quick search on YouTube showed several videos. Here’s one for you to see.
In the first article, Ms. Love claims that she makes over $1000 a day by rubbing her massives all over horny men who want to fetish on those large breasts. A grand a day!!! Why aren’t more women doing this????
Oh, that’s right……even most fat women don’t have 48NN bewbs. So, she MUST be worth a thousand bucks a day, since she’s so unique, and since SO MANY men want to make a reality out of the fantasy of having her large body rub all over them, they will pay just about anything for it.
It got me to thinking about my time with the NJ Bash, and watching all of the dumb boys walking into my events with all kinds of goodies to worship the girls with….the best liquor, chocolate, perfume, clothing, technology. You name it, all in hopes that they can buy the woman’s affection.
I personally think these men are fools, they are being gamed by some of the women who are masters of the game. In my opinion, everyone who engages in this is wrong. It seems icky to me, and violates everything I was taught about relationships by my parents. Yeah, yeah….I know that prostitution is the oldest occupation, but I’ve never thought about it. I’m a relationship guy, and I feel fortunate that all of my relationship needs have been met in the relationships I’ve been in. Please don’t tell me that that’s not the case with everyone. Of course I know that. I just think that in a community where there is already so much fetishizing going on, adding to it just makes it worse, especially in terms of how articles like this affect size acceptance.
I think that people outside of size acceptance already have some notions about fat people, many of them wrong. Let’s just think however, of what this does. I sure as hell don’t want people to think of Kristy Love when they think about fat people or size acceptance. I’d much rather they think of Marilyn Wann, or Ragen Chastain, or anyone who represents a group of intelligent people who can talk size acceptance, and make non believers believe. Instead, we have another heat seeking missile who is using her size to make money.
I’ve always said we’re people first, then we’re fat people, or thin people, or smart people, or men or women or transgendered people, and we should be defined as people. I don’t know Ms. Love at all, but after looking at a couple of her videos, it seems to me that she only wants to be known for her breasts.
Back to the BBW/FA events, and how they were affected.
I have several friends (current and former) who run paysites. Those sites allow the payee to view their photos and videos. They update often, since often translates to better bu$ine$$. Guys fetishize women there as well. One look at the “Paysite” board on websites like Dimensions will reflect that. Just a few comments from a recent post there:
…You look beautiful with all those pounds more.
I love her and her big tank ass.
lets buckle in and soon we will celebrate the magic number 500 =) (meaning 500 lbs)
What an awesome belly you have… I have some chocolate to go with that peanut butter I could feed you.
I didn’t want to spend a lot of time looking at the comments section, but trust me, it’s more than just the action of feeding women and gaining weight. There’s a lot of other fetishes thrown in. While I know that as humans we have secret things that are essential to turn us on, I’m also aware of the potential harm that fetishizing fat women while in the midst of a movement to have fat people accepted as average can cause some misunderstandings for those who don’t know better.
I wrote a blog a while back called the BBW-Porn Connection, which if you haven’t read, I urge you to do. I can only write about this from the men’s side, I don’t know what this process does, though I’ve heard that from a feminist standpoint it empowers women. While I think that’s great, I don’t know what the greater world need is….is it empowering women, or wanting people to think more positively about fat people.
In the meantime, women seem to be pretty empowered. Most of the website models have “Wish Lists” on Amazon, which admirers can buy the girls stuff in hopes they will get some “charm” in return. Here’s a quick list from one of the paysite models, with pricing: