Going it Alone.

I rarely call attention to my blogs. It’s been somewhat an exercise prescribed to me by my therapist, so there was never an intent to have anyone but me read them. That said, I have developed somewhat of a following, from friends of mine on Facebook who have seen me link to the blogs on occasion, to others who have been referred by friends or occasionally from idiots who also publish blogs on WordPress who read my comments to THEIR blogs (or who moderate them, and look me up to see if they want to take me on in debate). Regardless, to the several hundred or so who read my blogs when they come out, I thank you.

I’d like to introduce you to one of them, A blogger who calls himself Single White Male on WordPress. One of his more recent rants is called “Why I Hate Fat People”. Guess what sir? Several hundred people are about to see what an idiot you are.

Here’s some of the vomit he’s serving:

After posting my No Fat Chicks Challenge over at In Mala Fide the post went slightly viral, ending up, of all places, at a fatty fucker forum where the obese masses and their supplicating companions brooded and cried over what I wrote and other had said.

Let me begin by reiterating, and then defining a few things so that I don’t get tangled up in semantics.

Firstly, to those men who find “larger” women attractive, I harbor no ill will or bad feelings towards you, as long as you understand that what you have is a fetish. Just like the furry’s who like to put on make-up and ears when they get down, you have, what should be, a socially taboo sexual attraction to something that is not mainstream. That’s okay.

We’re not all supposed to like the same things, and I’m happy that a girl that weighs as much as you, or more, turns you on because you’re one less guy trying to bang the girls I find attractive. But as I said, you must understand that you have a fetish and because it is a fetish you have no right to try to shove it down my throat and make me accept it.

I would also like to clarify the word hate because it’s a powerful word.
Hate ~ verb: to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest:

This is the feeling I feel when I look at fat people today. Why do I have such a strong reaction? Because unlike the myriad of other problems that afflict humanity, fat is one of the few that is entirely you’re own volition. Being fat is a choice. Unlike the heroin addict who can no longer choose not to do the drug, or the prostitute who has no other marketable skills to make money, or the criminal in jail whose song has been sung, you as a fat person have a choice, that you make daily, to be the way you are.

So, the first thing I’m going to say is that I will defend his right to spew out all the hate he’d like to spew.

Now it’s my turn to talk.

I’ve never hated anyone. I’d never be weak enough to do so. It takes a strong person to look beyond what people say and do that would cause a hateful reaction from someone, and just as fat people simply being fat shouldn’t elicit that kind of response, so should his utterances here not cause the same.

It is my turn to talk though, so now I will explain why his head must be in his ass.

I attempted to respond to his blog, but his comments are moderated, and I’m not sure he’ll post what I’ve said to him there, so I will post my response here.

I’m a middle aged guy, in pretty good shape, with a good job who happens to find fat girls attractive. I was fat once myself, right around the weight you claimed to be prior to adjusting your lifestyle.

You’re right when you say that it wasn’t a lot of work to lose the weight. That’s about the only right thing that you said in the rest of this read.

The most important issue, and where you and I will likely always disagree is where you feel that you have some sort of responsibility to make people who haven’t done the same thing as you are I have feel bad. That’s both shitty and prejudicial in so many ways, that I won’t even waste my time debating it with you.

What I will say however, is that no one should be allowed to dictate how another person should live their life. I don’t see fat people telling you how wrong YOU are for becoming “healthier” (and I put that in quotes because new scientific studies are showing that carrying some extra weight may have additional health benefits.), so who the hell are you to issue this manifesto of yours?

I read your previous blog about the No Fat Chicks Challenge, and will tell you that I have laughed at “articles” like this for some time. A fetish by definition is as follows (Mirriam Webster Dictionary online):
1. an object (as a small stone carving of an animal) believed to have magical power to protect or aid its owner; broadly : a material object regarded with superstitious or extravagant trust or reverence.
2. an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion.
3. an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression.

There’s NOTHING in the definitions listed above that mentions anything about sexual taboo, and that is ASSUMING that being attracted to fat women is sexually taboo. Your logic, and I have a hard time calling it that, makes assumptions not only with the definition of what you “hate”, but that the attraction to larger, curvier women goes against what the rest of society claims is “normal”

Tastes in various body styles have always changed over generations. A good example would be to look at Renaissance art, and you will see a great example of what the women of that time looked like (and here’s a clue, they weren’t a size 2….), and had you written your “manifesto” back then, you might have been considered a heretic.

Here’s some news for you, son. There are more and more websites and forums that are springing up to discuss more comfortably the attraction to heavier people (and yes, Sherlock, there are many women who are attracted to fat men as well). Perhaps the world is headed towards a new Renaissance in this millenium, and there may be a chance that YOU are simply out of step with where it’s headed.

I fight this fight alone very often. As I stated in my last blog, I do this not so I can get the “approval” of a community of people that often is as disorganized and unappreciative of a positive effort as the sphincter who wrote the “hate” blog.

I do it because I know it’s the right thing to do.

Part of my disappointment in the fat community in general has been a lack of motivation to take on things such as this. I described the overall attitude in my last blog, saying that many thought it was a waste of time, and that little would come of taking this kind of stuff on. That blog discussed why I disagreed and if you haven’t read it, you’re welcome to read it via the link here.

I respect the fact that many in the community will disagree with me about whether it’s prudent to mount an offensive against fat hate like this, but again, as I stated in my previous blog, that fat hate will never go away if you simply decide to avoid these conflicts, rather than attack them in an intelligent manner. If you don’t, you may simply be living up to the stereotype of the person described in this guy’s blog. If you can live with that, then maybe you deserve the hate that’s heaped upon you……………..


4 thoughts on “Going it Alone.

  1. I agree with none of what you said, but unlike many you didn’t resort to name calling or low blows, and that I respect.

    The prupose of that article is to stir people. I want the shit bucket to be a hurricane by the time I’m gone, because for some people thats what it takes. If you read elsewhere on my blog I freely give up advice on healthy eating, low carb dieting, and provide recipes for preparing healthy dishes.

    I’ve offered up, at the sacrifice of my own time, the tools that would allow anyone in the modern world to lose weight and become a healthier person. Most people will seethe, some people will recoil, but a few might take a closer look.

    As for a few hundred people reading that article, all I have to say is thanks for the traffic mate 😉

  2. So, the author comes to the author. I’m glad that you respect that I don’t resort to name calling, but I don’t need to do that in order to make my point. It wasn’t my intention to try to sway you in any way, as it appears to me that your mind is so far removed from reality that any attempt to do so would be futile. It’s a known fact that you can’t reason with someone who appears delusional.

    Like you, the purpose of MY blog was to stir people as well. I want to move them to react to the hatred in the world for one of the last prejudices, which is the fat hate you espouse. Giving advice on healthy eating, dieting, and developing an overall healthy lifestyle is something I do as well. I spent several years as a vegetarian, and several on a macrobiotic diet as well. While I eat more a Mediterranean diet these days, I share recipes of mine on a great Facebook page called Gastrogasm.

    The difference between us is that I don’t ram my lifestyle down other people’s throats like you do. I think the word used to describe that is tyranny, and I’m not a tyrant.

    There is a movement among fat people called Health At Every Size (HAES). If you took the time to learn about it, you might feel different about fat people than you do now. It’s a movement that is gaining momentum, and empowering fat people to do some things to maintain a level of health that works for them.

    Ultimately, I find it interesting that you took the time to look up and post the definition of “hate”, yet never did the same with an oft misinterpreted word “fetish”. I think that dichotomy shows what you’re made of, my friend.

    Oh and hey, enjoy all the “hits” that my private blog will send you. You’ll need them to catch up with the amount of my readers. Good luck.

  3. Chad Daring said:
    “I’ve offered up, at the sacrifice of my own time, the tools that would allow anyone in the modern world to lose weight and become a healthier person. Most people will seethe, some people will recoil, but a few might take a closer look.”

    And I have offered up, at the sacrifice of my own time, the tools that would allow anyone in the modern world to learn the diversity of how different everyone in the world lives, so they will become an emotionally healthy person. A few like you will seethe, a few will recoil, but some who are still working through what to think might take a closer look. I hope you enjoyed your 15 minutes of fame that my blog got you, sir.

    By the way, I belong to a Facebook group called Gastrogasm, where the emphasis is placed on quality foods, and healthy eating. The difference between my participation there, and your blog is that I don’t ram my lifestyle down people’s throats like you do. Perhaps you could learn from that as well.

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