The BBW = Porn Connection V 2.0

So, there’s a post in Dementians currently about a paysite model named Gaining Gabi, who recently was published in the British press saying that when she gorges herself on junk food, she achieves orgasm.

http://www.metro.co.uk/news/855253-junk-food-makes-woman-have-orgasms

Wow.  Crazy.

The crazier part is that people are taking her comments seriously, and are responding in kind to a webmodel’s product, whose real life persona is somewhat different than her product.  If you’ve read my previous blog about the perception of BBW’s in the porn business, you’d know that often the paysite model loses her perspective in judging the difference between who she is, and the product she offers.  That can become dangerous for many reasons to the webmodel, but  I won’t bog you down with the details, since that isn’t the purpose of this particular blog.

Anyway, one can see by the responses to this thread about Gabi that people are taking this seriously, and also confusing the product and the person.  This thread is analagous to the discussion of Donna Simpson claiming she is going to weigh 1,000 pounds someday, with the only difference being that Gabi is not attempting to represent the fat community in any way.

I think she does, and doesn’t realize it.

Let me start by saying that I am friends with Gabi.  Well, not the PRODUCT known as Gabi, but the person who plays her.  She is a bright, articulate girl, who has been fun to be around, despite all the hate coming to her for some episode of her product looking for financial support for a medical condition that many said was a scam.

Many people in that thread have posted about the deceit, which according to them seems unforgivable.  That’s cool, but didn’t the Bible have this to say about judgment?

MATTHEW 7:1-5:

“Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull the mote out of thine eye; and behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast the mote out of thy brother’s eye.”

(oh shit, Phil’s quoting scripture now…………)

For all of you who posted your judgments in that thread, I hate to tell you, but you’re hypocrites.  I know way too much about many of you to know you shouldn’t be talking shit like that.  I’ve seen a couple of you do the morning “walk of shame” at bashes and dances, so you don’t really have room to talk.  Generally, many people in this community will tell someone whatever they want to hear to achieve the goals they have set, regardless of whether they pose for porn or not.  True of both sexes, so don’t get on me for being one sided.

THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A FAT GIRL WHO HAS A WEBSITE AND PUTS A WANT LIST UP FOR GUYS WHO ADMIRE THEM TO BUY THEM SHIT BECAUSE THEY PERPETUATE THE MYTH OF WANTING TO GET FATTER, AND THE GIRL WHO PLAYS UP TO A GUY TO TREAT THEM TO AIRFARE OR LODGING FOR A BBW/FA EVENT.  EITHER WAY, IT’S SIZE PROSTITUTION.

From someone whose opinion I respect:

“a good part of the real issue for some is that it can be tiring to see comments and verbal vomit from people who hold to stereotypes and who think of fat people as less-than, and also an eye-rolling experience to see behavior that then confirms the worst of those tightly-held stereotypes.”

That is my most elemental point.  While I care for HER (the real person I know who I consider a friend), the PRODUCT she has put out there simply supports the stereotype of fat people that so much of the world perceives to be true.  And yes, while other fat women may “claim” that Ms. Gabi’s statements are not representative of who THEY are, the world will not ever change those stereotypes as long as people and products who support these stereotypes continue.

Gabi owes nothing to the community.  I’ve never during any of our conversations heard her talk about fat activism or size acceptance, so I don’t know if that is an issue for her.  Regardless, people seem to have an issue with her, but I feel like the issue is misplaced.  As I said, leading someone on in a BBW/FA relationship because they buy you stuff is no different than asking someone to send you money because you’re “ill”.

To me, the issue still and always will be that there are so few fat people in the media, that when one gets some attention, and it’s all about their PRODUCT (let’s face it, her membership base will go up as a result of the article, and the shipments of food to help satisfy her sexual desires should begin to arrive shortly) has a cost to others, whether you’re too stubborn to admit it or not.

Go ahead, and live your life with your head in your ass, and act like you aren’t affected by things like this.

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One thought on “The BBW = Porn Connection V 2.0

  1. The past few days have seen me get a lot of negative response to this blog in particular, and I’m not sure why. Even some of my good friends are either upset with the tone of the blog, or think the message may be about them in some way.

    I’m not going to be my sarcastic self and say “well, if the shoe fits”, but do think I need to make a couple of points here.

    First, this post was not about Gaining Gabi, it could have been ANY webmodel who’s gone national to seek attention. I could easily have written about Donna Simpson, or Destiny and Desire, or Gaining Goddess, or any other paysite model who’s gone on TV talk shows OR news shows. As I’ve said before, many of the people behind these names are friends of mine.

    The purpose of the blog was to discuss two things:
    1. How judgmental people in this community can be. Again, I can’t emphasize enough that a community who pretends to seek and work on acceptance of fat people in general can’t be more accepting of each other within the ranks

    2. The ramifications for someone new to the BBW/FA community who types in BBW on the net, and the first 200 items in his search are about paysites and video porn clips, which in addition, include girls who present the fantasy of weight gain, some of them to immobility. I’ve seen some of these guys (a few of which were half decent people who just connected the dots that were put there by the paysite people) get verbally killed at bashes and dances based on those false assumptions, again by the judgment people in this community.

    So, for the webmodels who attacked Gabi for asking for money, do you think it’s a stretch to say that having a “wish list” on your websites is any different than asking for money to pay medical bills? Really?

    My last question, since I was accused for being judgmental. Why is it okay for the community to be so judgmental, yet when I point the finger back at the community, these same people think I’m horrible?

    Finally, to answer a question, a few have asked if the past few blogs have something to do with the breakup of my marriage (to a webmodel). THAT couldn’t be further from the truth. The fact of the matter is, when I met my second wife in mid 2001, she was in the process of setting up a website, after having done a few shoots for others, and a couple of videos. She’d be more than happy to verify this, but when she asked me if I was interested in dating her, my response was that I don’t date web models. 2 months later, she was out of her contract to open a website, and we began to date, and ended up getting married a year later.

    We kept a low profile for almost 4 years, until she decided to return to paysite modeling. I was emotionally crushed, let her know my feelings, and then went about the process of being a supportive husband and becoming her personal photographer (which I’ve been told I did a wonderful job, even though I had minimal training).

    So no, my feelings about this have been consistent for the entire time that I’ve been part of the community, and by no means were these blogs triggered by that breakup…………

    But hey, thanks for asking!

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